By Carl Knickerbocker
The Parallel Parenting Solution
The direct, solutions-driven guide for parents done with the chaos of co-parenting with a high-conflict ex.
Written by a family law attorney who has lived it and fought for hundreds of parents going through it — this is not another feel-good divorce book. It is a solutions manual for those of us who have to deal with narcissistic and high-conflict exes.
About This Book
Co-parenting doesn’t have to be a living hell. But fixing it starts with reality — not wishful thinking.
Families who want to heal after a divorce should not start with pie-in-the-sky expectations. They should start in reality. The Parallel Parenting Solution comes straight out of lived experience, extensive research, and coaching — and is written as a direct solutions manual for those who have to deal with narcissistic and high-conflict exes.
Co-parenting does not have to take a toll on your mental health, deplete your finances, compromise your values, or threaten your safety. For those experiencing co-parenting as a living hell — your experience is valid. But there is hope, and it is called Parallel Parenting.
Parallel Parenting is based on the premise that all parties achieve the highest outcomes when they are free to work in parallel — rather than being thrown into the chaotic, emotionally enmeshed soup that is traditional co-parenting. Understanding the exploitative fantasy sold to us by the divorce industry is as important as understanding the down-to-earth tactics for dealing with your high-conflict ex. This book teaches you both.
This book is intentionally direct, solutions-driven, and written from the perspective of those who have lived with high-conflict exes. We know you have already wasted enough time, life, and energy on them. It is time for immediate change. It is time for solutions.
This Book Is For You If
What The Book Covers
What you will learn.
Why Co-Parenting Fails With High-Conflict Exes
The book opens with an unflinching look at what Carl calls the “co-parenting fantasy” — the well-meaning but deeply misguided advice sold to divorcing parents that assumes both parties are motivated by the children’s wellbeing. Understanding why this model is exploitative and conflict-producing when a narcissist is involved is the essential first step.
The Parallel Parenting Framework
The core of the book is the parallel parenting model itself — disengagement, structured written communication, independent households, and a court order written to support the framework. Carl explains not just what parallel parenting is, but how to implement it practically in the specific situations his readers face.
Tactics For Dealing With Your High-Conflict Ex
Beyond the framework, the book provides concrete, field-tested tactics for the specific situations high-conflict co-parents face — how to respond (and not respond) to provocations, how to handle exchanges, how to manage communications, and how to stop the emotional enmeshment that keeps you locked in conflict.
Protecting Your Children & Your Sanity
The book closes with a focus on what matters most — your children’s wellbeing and your own. Carl addresses how parallel parenting protects children from conflict, how to be a stable and present parent during and after a high-conflict divorce, and how to reclaim the time, energy, and mental health that co-parenting with a narcissist has consumed.
Ready to stop surviving and start living? It starts here.
Get The Parallel Parenting Solution on Amazon today. And if you want Carl’s direct guidance on applying these strategies to your specific situation, book a coaching session.